Ning Youguang smiled, "Of course, I’m very glad you are actively asking questions and making requests. This shows that you are already willing to explore so issues on your own, which allows you to learn and observe to the fullest extent. You are indeed making progress."
Xia Fanxing laughed too, a very sincere laugh.
His fair and handso face bore a genuine smile.
That smile lit up his entire being.
After so ti in therapy, he was gradually regaining vitality. His face had filled out a bit, making him look better.
"I want to analyze the origins of my emotions and how not to be troubled by them," Xia Fanxing said.
"This is a very worthy topic for us to discuss. Emotions, as a basic human feeling, do not arise on their own; they are caused by other reasons and depend on their origin. So, if you want to know the origin of your emotions, you need to learn self-awareness. Before emotions erge, you need to think rationally and reflect on what you were contemplating beforehand."
"Honestly, Ning, it’s a bit difficult."
"What’s difficult about it?"
"I read that people who are caught up in emotions are irrational. If that’s the case, you want to be aware of the reasons when emotions occur, isn’t that asking too much?"
"It is indeed a bit difficult, but don’t you want to understand the origins of your emotions?"
"Do I really have to do it this way?" Xia Fanxing asked in distress, "Isn’t there a simpler thod?"
"This is the simplest thod."
Xia Fanxing fell silent.
He quietly observed Ning Youguang, contemplating, and waiting for her to offer a second thod.
But, no matter how seriously he watched her, she remained calmly waiting for him to make a choice.
Xia Fanxing felt deflated and gave up trying to spar with her.
He also realized how foolish he was being to test patience with a counselor!
So he sighed, "Then please tell how I should beco aware."
Ning Youguang chuckled softly, speaking gently, "First, when emotions arise, learn to control them so that they don’t imdiately surface. Then, during this buffer, closely observe your inner needs. Generally, the origin of a person’s emotions is unt internal needs. Once you identify your true needs, you can et them in a more gentle way, whether through self-fulfillnt or by others. Once your needs are t, your emotional issues will naturally resolve. This way, you will stop using emotions to solve problems, making situations unnecessarily complicated, causing discomfort for yourself and others."
Alright, alright, you’re just saying I throw tantrums and am unreasonable.
Xia Fanxing felt mocked, but he dared not say it.
So, he pondered a bit and replied, "It seems that’s the case. Every ti I feel emotional turmoil, it’s because soone said sothing unpleasant, did sothing I didn’t like, or when I didn’t et my own or others’ expectations."
"Exactly. So, if you don’t want emotions to lead you, you need to understand what emotions really are. Emotions are neither good nor bad; the key is how one utilizes them when they arise. Used poorly, they can hurt oneself and others; used well, they are excellent tools for understanding one’s inner needs."
"After discussing for so long, I get it," Xia Fanxing said irritably. "You’re saying the emotions are not the problem—I am, right?"
"You interpreted it quite right." The gentle and beautifully-featured Ning stood up from her chair, showing no leniency, "Alright, today’s session is over. If you have any questions, organize them and ask next ti."
With that, she handed him a bottle of water, "See you next ti."
Xia Fanxing was almost half-pushed out of Ning Youguang’s office.
And, after stepping a re two ters beyond her office door,
He heard a "bang" as the door behind him was coldly closed.
Xia Fanxing turned around, looking at the door in disbelief.
He felt he truly had issues!
He even felt reluctant to leave a psychologist’s cold office. 1314
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