"Just now, I asked you to repeat this sentence continuously, not only for yourself but also for those around you and your husband. You need to assertively and decisively tell them that this is what you truly believe," Ning Youguang said. "This way, you will gradually establish a correct self-recognition, knowing that you are a good person, worthy of love, without needing ideal validation from your partner. You will instinctively know what you want and strive for it. In this way, you won’t be controlled by others or easily brainwashed."
"anwhile, as we free ourselves from others’ control, we also need to reconnect with ourselves. To connect with oneself, you can choose an activity that combines body and mind, like yoga or other forms of dynamic ditation. These activities are based on a system that quiets your soul and bravely accepts your true self, not through discussion, analysis, or imagination, but through positive activities that integrate body and mind. When you go back, you can choose to sign up at a gym or yoga center, or if you just want to try ditation, I can send you a few audio files. Find a quiet environnt daily, sit quietly for 15 to 30 minutes, focus on your breathing, slowly let your distractions fade, and after a while, you will find yourself becoming calr than before, better able to connect with your mind and body, and more resistant to stress."
"I feel it’s so difficult," Liang Yiyi thought of how she resisted her husband and the intense argunts and clashes that happened at ho, feeling apprehensive from the bottom of her heart.
"It is not easy," Ning Youguang said. "Many tis, making the right choice can also bring a lot of negative impacts, such as anxiety, fear, and sadness. It’s difficult, but bravely facing them, these feelings will disappear, and what we gain will be a complete self."
Liang Yiyi remained silent for a mont and said to Ning Youguang, "Please tell what I should do."
"The steps are simple. You only need to do these points to regain control of your life and free yourself from your husband’s control."
"Mr. Ning, wait a mont." Liang Yiyi turned to her daughter, "Lele, lend your notebook and pen."
Liang Yule quickly retrieved them from her bag and handed them to her.
"Dr. Ning, speak slowly, I will write them down carefully."
"Okay." Ning Youguang smiled—
"1. After going back, record your conversations with your husband. Listen to them several tis, and you will find that much of his logic doesn’t hold."
"2. Whenever there is any confusion in the relationship, you can reach out to or trusted friends or relatives to discuss it. Do not shut down your external information channels."
"3. Pay close attention to your own feelings. You may not fully understand his way of expression or emotional abuse, but you certainly know your own feelings, whether they are comfortable or uncomfortable."
"4. Once conflicts arise, separate from him imdiately. Do not continue entangling with him, and don’t be disturbed by his negative emotions, letting yourself sink into a trash bin of negativity."
"5. Stick to your own recognition; you need to believe that your view is correct. Especially when interacting with him, rember to often tell him these three sentences—"
"I know that’s your perspective, but I have my perspective, I don’t agree with your perspective, please respect ."
"I have a different view from you!"
"That’s your understanding, our understandings are different. You are right, and so am I." 1314
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