In the family constellation session, Ning Youguang focused entirely on guiding everyone.
She said, "Xiao Wei, you say to Jiang Han."
——"Yes, exactly like this."
Xiao Wei looked up at Ning Youguang, finding it difficult to say those words.
After Ning Youguang reminded him several tis, he finally said the words to Jiang Han.
"Yes..." He held his breath, his lips trembling slightly, "exactly like this."
Ning Youguang continued guiding Xiao Wei, "Xiao Wei, continue speaking to him."
"Yes, exactly like this, I accept everything and regard everything that happens as challenges and tests in life."
Xiao Wei repeated these words.
Originally lying on the ground, Jiang Han started moving when Xiao Wei said the first sentence, uncurling himself and lying straight on the floor.
When Xiao Wei said the second sentence, he reached out to touch Xiao Wei.
Ning Youguang continued to guide Xiao Wei to say to Jiang Han, "I went through this with you, you are my family—it is as it is."
After the family constellation session ended.
Ning Youguang first jotted down so notes in her book, then looked at Xiao Wei, "We need to proceed with a one-on-one conversation next."
Yu Xian got up from the ground and invited Jiang Han, "Let’s go have so tea."
...
"Are you addicted to certain things?" With the other two leaving, Ning Youguang spoke to Xiao Wei directly.
Xiao Wei’s eyes suddenly widened in shock.
"Yes, I see it," Ning Youguang’s gaze fell candidly on Xiao Wei’s face.
Xiao Wei was silent for a long ti, lowering his head, "Ms. Ning, please promise to keep this confidential."
"Of course, that is basic professional ethics," Ning Youguang said, "You can completely trust ."
Then she calmly and objectively added, "Addiction is a very normal thing, don’t put too much psychological burden on yourself."
"To , you are sick, and I can cure you, it’s that simple."
Having been already discovered, Xiao Wei felt that continuing to hide would be akin to deceiving oneself and would only make him seem weak and ridiculous.
After that, he solemnly revealed his own issues.
It turns out that with the rapid rise in his career over the years, Xiao Wei has gained unprecedented attention, which ans he has endless work, endless performances, and endless shows.
He is busy every day, and the pressure is imnse. As his fa grows, more and more girls throw themselves at him, leading him gradually to lose control.
"I used to strive desperately for fa, but once I got it, I realized fa was also a hassle—many people like , but many curse and dislike ," Xiao Wei said, "Ms. Ning, I must admit I am not that strong, I can’t ignore these things, I still care a lot about what others think of ."
This led to considerable distress from external opinions and the deceitful gas in his work.
"Since I entered the industry, there has been a period each month when I feel intense anxiety. When anxious, I either escape through watching videos or find girls to hang out with, as these things relax sowhat."
However, placing all his happiness on videos and girls only offered Xiao Wei temporary relief.
Over ti, he realized he was ruined.
Doing these things beca like taking drugs for him.
When the drug effects wore off, happiness disappeared.
"In recent years, I have needed to continuously watch videos and constantly seek new excitent to feel stimulated, to feel happiness. Every ti after finishing a video, within minutes I want to watch another, and seeing the girls swarming towards reminds of that—I’m addicted to dopamine stimulation," he said, "Initially, I thought many people in this circle played like this, it’s normal, but later I discovered I was more addicted to these things than others."
"Ordinary regular x life can’t stimulate you anymore?" Ning Youguang asked tily.
"Yes." Xiao Wei painfully held his head.
Before, he either dared not see a psychologist.
Feeling compelled to see a doctor, he dared not speak about his addiction, so the doctor’s advice was ineffective for him.
The more anxious he beca, the more intense his addiction to these things grew, following which his anxiety soared after the thrill faded, forming a vicious cycle like a combination of compulsion and drug addiction.
"In these two years, my life has been greatly affected—I am near madness." Xiao Wei said anxiously, "I find it hard to focus and interest myself in real life anymore."
He said, "Every day, while indulging in these things, my consciousness is blurred, often can’t rember anything except during the ’happy’ monts, and my thoughts turn negative."
He involuntarily compared the won around him to those on the screen.
Thus, he awkwardly and chaotically wavered between real and imagined x experiences.
Tornting himself, and others.
"Ms. Ning, please help quit these."
He had made efforts by himself.
Secretly devised plans to challenge himself, using more work, fitness, and training to dilute his addiction, yet still couldn’t return to a normal life.
"Right now, I am very anxious and depressed, I already find it hard to feel they are attractive, even find it revolting, of course, I also find myself disgusting." Xiao Wei said painfully, "Ms. Ning, I hope I can control my desires and be a normal person."
"Please help , tell what exactly should I do." Xiao Wei fell backward, sprawling on the ground, eyes vacantly staring at the ceiling like a doll ravaged by fate.
Ning Youguang truly understood his current despair.
If a person can’t freely manage their desires and must yield to external stimulations, what is the point of living this life?
No wonder he offered money so generously.
In general terms, for soone like Xiao Wei.
At this level of addiction, basically in this realm for life.
Unless soone forces him or objective conditions prevent him from continuing.
As long as there are conditions or money or ti, these addictions can’t be eliminated.
Addiction is a terrifying thing, it is a disease.
Addicted individuals experience great pleasure when engaging in the addicted activities.
Generally, the motivation to continue these acts is for enjoynt.
About enjoynt——
Shallow layer experiences include: jokes, gourt food, teasing, praises, watching the bustle, even fright (many girls like horror movies for this reason).
dium layer experiences are: smoking, gaming, costic surgery.
Deep layer experiences: porn, gambling, drugs.
Comparing these three, porn, gambling, drugs.
x contains dopamine is 100%, while cocaine has dopamine content at 350%, thamphetamine has dopamine content at 1200%. 1314
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