"But didn’t you say before that when you turn thirty and have won three Best Actress awards, we’ll find a ti to go ho and see Mom and Dad?"
Shang Feifei spoke rationally, "You know your family’s situation better than I do. Your parents don’t seem to like my profession very much. If you really want to move forward, you should handle your family’s matters first. If you don’t handle it well, and want to get the license first and then hold the wedding, or if you want to have a child before marriage, I won’t agree."
"But we’re... almost at that age."
Just like Bo Yan, this guy got married a few years ago, although he hasn’t held a wedding yet. Soone his age, unless they want to ss around, would have gotten married long ago. Whether they continue to fool around after marriage or return to family life depends on the wife’s abilities.
Shang Feifei smiled, "I’m not in a hurry, are you? How about this, you go back first, and take care of your family’s matters. If your parents and family don’t object, we can et up for a al and get to know each other better. But let’s get this straight first, even if things progress further, I won’t leave the industry. Don’t expect to return ho to be a housewife once we’re married; I will still go out to work. If they can accept that, I don’t mind continuing."
There are so many examples proving that if you completely withdraw from the workforce to beco a full-ti housewife, without the financial security of your own, your future will entirely depend on your husband’s affection and conscience. Even if you et a good husband, plus reasonable in-laws and relatives, asking them for money is far less secure than earning it yourself. At least, that’s how Shang Feifei feels.
This statent did make Han Yifan pause for a mont. His mother, sister-in-law, and his mother are full-ti housewives, or rather, wealthy wives, who don’t need to do any work. The sister-in-law was originally a lawyer before she joined and is now in the company’s legal departnt. Although the work is the sa, the workload is significantly reduced, and she can still pick up the kids from kindergarten at three or four o’clock.
When Han Yifan and Shang Feifei’s relationship first ca to light, his parents and brother didn’t quite like it. After all, dating casually is fine, but if he were to bring soone ho, they still hoped the family’s daughter-in-law could take care of the family a bit more. It’s hard for soone like Shang Feifei, who has so many activities and works about 360 days out of the year, to do that.
Changing his parents’ viewpoint is indeed a bit difficult, but he can choose not to live with them in the future, reducing many conflicts after separation. Moreover, it’s hard for elderly people to accept having their daughter-in-law filming kissing scenes or love scenes with other actors. He’s fine with it, as it’s part of the job, and finding a stand-in seems unprofessional. But making his parents accept it is much harder.
After going round and round, he realized that things could only remain as they are, with no room for advancent. It’s his fault, being idle till thirty, accomplishing nothing, with no bargaining chip to assure his parents. There’s not much confidence in negotiating.
"But I’m still quite happy," Shang Feifei said gently, "When I first t you, I thought you were a playboy. I didn’t expect..."
Didn’t expect him to be quite serious. When she began dating him, she never thought it would last this long, assuming it would be just a short-term relationship of a few months. Now he even has plans for marriage and children.
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