Who would study psychology unless they had some issues?! Chapter 482 - 473: Did You Not Really Get Gifts Growing Up?

Although the body cannot sense the flow of sand, the mind believes that the visitor feels it.

This is a state similar to mindfulness.

Getting into this state takes so effort.

Initially, Nan Zhubin thought if the visitor bluntly said, "can’t feel the sand," then he might have to use so techniques to guide them.

At the very least, the entire practice process of [Self-soothing Landing] must be completed.

Now that the visitor can autonomously "feel" it, this is the best situation.

Nan Zhubin continued to guide: "Okay, the sand in the hourglass has now all leaked out. Next, you can gently rub the hourglass with your hands, trying to feel its texture, its shape, its material."

After entering the state, the first step of [Self-soothing Landing] is now - the body precedes.

Fine touch can always provide the most direct physical comfort.

The visitor’s expression beca increasingly calm.

"Have you touched sand before?" Nan Zhubin suddenly asked.

"I have." The visitor replied, "I have been to the seaside, and in elentary school, my favorite thing was to play with the sand in the long jump pit."

Excellent.

"Good." Nan Zhubin started with a joke, "The sand in this hourglass is carefully selected, definitely the best batch from the beach or the pit."

Then, Nan Zhubin’s voice beca low, deep, and stable.

Giving off a faint feeling of distance.

"Okay, now let’s imagine, this fine, soft, possibly cool but also possibly slightly warm sand, slowly flowing out of the hourglass."

Nan Zhubin stared at the visitor: "What kind of feeling do you think they would give you when they touch your palm?"

The visitor thought for a mont.

"...perhaps a bit cool." Then the visitor replied.

"Why is that?"

"Because the sand we used to play with was cool too."

Saying this, the visitor slightly curved their lips.

Excellent.

Seeing such a stark change in the visitor’s expression, Nan Zhubin imdiately seized the opportunity: "Can you now imagine a scene from when you used to play with sand?"

Now, it is the second step of [Self-soothing Landing] - instant connection to positive emotions.

In this step, the consultant must capture the spontaneously erging positive mory fragnts of the visitor and reinforce this positive imprint through multiple senses.

The thod of reinforcent is to enrich the details - what you saw, what you touched, what you heard, and so on in this mory.

Under Nan Zhubin’s guidance, the visitor slowly recalled at this mont: "The scene of playing with sand, it should be a long ti ago, probably in elentary school."

"After school, playing with close friends, sotis having sand fights, sotis building sandcastles, sotis with no purpose, just simply digging into the sand..."

"Back then, honestly, everyone could laugh very..." the visitor took a deep breath, leaned back into their seat, "...carefree."

This is precisely the effect we want.

"Was this laughter safe?"

"Of course, it was safe." The visitor replied.

Great.

Nan Zhubin’s voice beca slightly brighter, but not to the extent that it would wake soone up: "Alright, Zhihao, now I need you to grasp the hourglass in your hand - grasp it, hold it firmly, grip it tight."

At this mont, the progress reached the third step of [Self-soothing Landing] - bodily motor patterning.

Once this step is completed, the visitor will be able to use a unique body action, combined with sensory integration, to form a conditioned reflex.

When danger signals appear, the visitor can promptly initiate the action to switch neural patterns and disengage from the negative state.

"Then, place the hand gripping the hourglass on your chest and repeat a phrase with - ’Here, I am safe.’"

The visitor complied:

"Here, I am...safe."

"Again."

"Here, I am safe."

"Very good." Nan Zhubin nodded, "Zhihao, rember these three keys - the coolness in your palm, the safe childhood laughter, and the tight grip in your hand. When you fall into uneasy mories again next ti, perform the sa actions as now and recall these three keys, and you will acquire a sense of safety."

"Now, you can open your eyes."

Vision was re-illuminated.

The visitor blinked.

They heard Nan Zhubin say: "This hourglass is a gift for you. Its size is quite suitable to be made into a necklace pendant."

This is the fourth step of [Self-soothing Landing], and also the last step - the materialization of reality.

Grant ordinary objects symbolic aning to make them a safety anchor.

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[Self-soothing Landing] and [Spiritual Landing] both have multisensory tasks, but their forms and functions are different.

[Spiritual Landing] initiates multisensory tasks to collect external information and occupy its own cognitive and emotional resources by processing this information.

[Self-soothing Landing] initiates multisensory tasks to recall the details of positive internal scenes, thereby producing a healing effect.

A complete [grounding technique] employs these three landings.

Use the actions of [Body Landing] to grasp a controllable breakthrough point from complex emotions.

Then use [Spiritual Landing] to take over cognitive resources through this breakthrough point.

Finally, use [Self-soothing Landing] to connect positive emotions utilizing captured cognitive resources, thereby producing a healing effect.

Of course, the goal is positive.

But even Nan Zhubin cannot claim to heal a person with just one use of this technique.

It will probably take one to two months during which Nan Zhubin needs to continually train the visitor to enable them to skillfully use [grounding technique] to combat their own [mory Flashbacks].

Then gradually simplify the process, as this entire three landings take considerable ti.

...

"Giving it to ?"

Now, the visitor looked at the small hourglass Nan Zhubin handed over, moved their fingers but did not reach out.

"Is this your personal item, teacher? Or do you give one when training this technique at your consultancy?"

This was left by the previous owner of Nan Zhubin’s desk; it was there when Nan Zhubin arrived.

Seeing it was very suitable for today’s exercise, Nan Zhubin directly brought it over.

"Consider it my personal item." Nan Zhubin smiled.

"Thank you, teacher." The visitor accepted it solemnly.

The expression made Nan Zhubin blink; young man, haven’t you received many gifts from others growing up?

anwhile, Nan Zhubin glanced at the wall clock.

The ti had moved about half an hour’s mark.

Most has passed, but there is still plenty of surplus.