Who would study psychology unless they had some issues?! Chapter 59 - 59 59 Can a Mother Not Understand Her Child
59: Chapter 59: Can a Mother Not Understand Her Child?
59: Chapter 59: Can a Mother Not Understand Her Child?
The absurdity in Chen’s mother’s eyes lasted for a mont before she gradually ca to her senses and began to brew her anger again.
For soone who has already dismissed psychological consultation and even defined it as “a scam to make money,” Nan Zhubin’s comnt “you need consultation” felt extrely offensive.
However, before Chen’s mother’s emotions fully brewed, Chen Ting spoke up first.
“Mom.” The little girl’s voice was still muffled, “I have sothing I want to say to you.”
“Right now, here.”
Chen’s mother’s attention was once again diverted by her daughter, and the anger she had built up towards Nan Zhubin was instantly cleared.
She took a few deep breaths, almost defiantly throwing herself onto the sofa.
Yet, she still managed to maintain a rather graceful posture.
“Fine, I’ll listen to what on earth you want to say, and why you skipped school to co here by yourself.”
[Leaving school without classes in college is not considered skipping school.]
Chen Ting hesitated to speak.
…
Early psychological consultations focused on individual interventions for the visitors.
However, as the field developed, scholars realized the interactive influence between the “visitor’s environnt” and the “visitor.”
This interaction may not only be the cause of ntal diseases but also the cure for them.
As the “family” is the primary environnt interacting with the visitor most, consultants have brought it into their frawork and developed corresponding family therapy approaches.
Many tis, it’s hard to admit, but the visitor’s issues often have so connection to “family mbers.”
Either the family mbers haven’t provided the visitor with the necessary social support or inadvertently exacerbated the condition, or they are simply the direct cause of the psychological issues.
Chen Ting’s family situation is sowhat complex, embodying all three situations.
Hmm.
To fully resolve Chen Ting’s issues, family therapy had long been included in Chen Ting’s intervention plan by Nan Zhubin.
It was part of the plan, although not initially intended to be implented now.
But unexpectedly, Chen’s mother suddenly visited today.
Well, since she’s here.
Might as well proceed with it.
Moreover, Nan Zhubin was not wrong in having said one thing.
…
“You need consultation,” Nan Zhubin said to Chen’s mother.
Chen’s mother crossed her arms without speaking, appearing with a look of “let’s see what you’ve got.”
There were three sofas in the consultation room.
The standard layout of a consultation room is like this: two single sofas face each other around a coffee table, with a double sofa placed in between the two single ones.
Now, Nan Zhubin sat on the single sofa closest to the outside, Chen Ting was huddled on another single sofa near the door, and Chen’s mother had claid the only double sofa.
Chen Ting also remained silent.
Nan Zhubin knew that both mother and daughter had fallen into silence.
The difference was that Chen Ting’s current state was defensive silence, while Chen’s mother was confrontational silence.
Nan Zhubin decided to use Chen’s mother as a breakthrough point.
In this consultation atmosphere, standard opening remarks generally have no effect, not only failing to deepen the consultation but potentially escalating the confrontation.
Therefore, the initial topic shouldn’t target the symptoms but rather so external factors.
Nan Zhubin thought for a mont and said, “You know our consultations are charged per session, right?”
Chen’s mother looked over.
“The last consultation with Chen Ting just concluded, and what we are doing now with you and your daughter is a new session.”
Nan Zhubin pretended to check his watch: “If no one wants to talk, this session could just end like this.”
Upon saying this, Chen’s mother, like being teased with fire, was instantly ignited.
Regardless of their wealthy background, no one can remain indifferent when confronted like this as a “money-grabbing” provocation.
Her voice was icy: “Is this how you consultants scam money?”
Nan Zhubin smiled slightly, his words suddenly sharp: “It seems you care a lot about being ‘scamd’?”
Chen’s mother’s aggressive deanor suddenly froze.
Even though her body language was still fierce, desperately trying to show anger, the expression on her face told Nan Zhubin that her anger had already deflated like a punctured balloon.
Chen’s mother glanced at her daughter and crossed her arms: “Didn’t you say you’re doing consultation?
Then tell about Tingting’s situation.
What kind of consultation did you conduct dragging her out?”
Chen Ting’s lips moved slightly, seemingly wanting to say “not dragged,” but she lacked the courage and energy to speak at this mont.
Nan Zhubin smiled slightly: “After the recent understanding and my further judgnt, I believe Chen Ting now needs family therapy.
Her current situation requires the effort of the whole family.”
Chen’s mother laughed: “So, in all these circling talks, the consultants actually want us family mbers to do the work?”
“We paid you to do your job, and now you say we have to do it ourselves?
You move your lips and just take the money.”
Her voice was filled with absurdity: “That ans Tingting isn’t sick.
In fact, even if she’s not sick, you’d say she is!”
Chen’s mother’s chest heaved intensely, her well-maintained face flushed with red.
However, after several rounds of emotional venting, she began to show signs of fatigue.
Also, she seed to lose so control over her manners.
One cannot remain in a state of emotional outburst for long.
Chen Ting curled up further into the sofa, adjusting her body’s inclination away from her mother and closer to Nan Zhubin.
Despite the accusations and reprimands, Nan Zhubin inwardly smiled.
As long as the opposing side spoke, he could capture keywords.
Especially in this unrestrained outburst, key information was more abundant.
“Do you believe Chen Ting doesn’t have ‘problems’?”
Nan Zhubin replaced “illness” with “problem” to soften the language.
“But previously, you took her to the hospital for diagnoses and went through multiple consultation centers.”
“Your verbal expressions seem inconsistent with your past behavior?”
Nan Zhubin began the confrontation.
Chen’s mother paused, then sneered: “That’s because Tingting was immature and scared herself.
As for going to the hospital, psychiatry, psychology or whatever, you don’t even need a real issue for them to find sothing.”
Nan Zhubin pursued further: “Was this your thought from the beginning?”
“Yes.”
“You believed from the start that Chen Ting had no problem?”
“Yes!”
“Why are you so sure about this?”
Chen’s mother seed insulted and began to refute more intensely.
In psychological terminology, she started to defend.
“As a mother, how could I not understand my own child?”
Chen’s mother spoke with a face full of self-righteousness.
“And Tingting is such a good child, how could she possibly have issues?”
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