Who would study psychology unless they had some issues?! Chapter 619: 572: Step by Step Interpretation, Layer by Laye

Chapter 619: Chapter 572: Step by Step Interpretation, Layer by Layer Exploration

“The first thing is, it’s when we were supposed to do the counseling last week,” the visitor said.

Nan Zhubin raised an eyebrow in his heart; it was a topic he was also quite concerned about, and he hadn’t expected the visitor to bring it up voluntarily at this mont.

“I was supposed to attend counseling, Director Hu knows this, and theoretically, I should be off work at that ti,” the visitor said, “But because there was a sudden urgent shift last week, my break ti was overridden. If I wanted to co to counseling, I had to find another nurse, who was resting, to cover for .”

“But… Director Hu asked, and no one was available to cover. So I missed the counseling session.”

The visitor gave Nan Zhubin an apologetic smile: “I guess it caused you so trouble too…”

Nan Zhubin waved his hand, indicating it was nothing to worry about, and then refocused on the content that had just erged from the sentence: “I’m more concerned with your feelings and choices in this situation. But if I heard correctly, in that sentence, you seed to establish another choice when you encountered the problem then.”

Nan Zhubin made a backward gesture and recalled: “You ntioned ‘finding another nurse who was resting to cover for ’ — did you attempt this?”

Nan Zhubin emphasized, “Did you do it yourself, not Director Hu?”

The visitor shook her head, “No.”

Nan Zhubin pressed further, “Why not?”

“Couldn’t find anyone,” the visitor replied.

As she said this, her expression was full of certainty.

Nan Zhubin pursued, “You ntioned you didn’t try but directly reached this conclusion?”

The visitor shrugged, speaking as if it was obvious: “It’s sothing everyone knows is impossible, so why waste ti and emotions?”

Nan Zhubin shook his head inwardly, yet nodded at the sa ti. He shook his head because the visitor’s response was clearly unhealthy, and nodded because her words indirectly reflected the tension in her relationships with colleagues.

From her perspective, it confird the information of [unstable social relationships].

“Moreover…” Before Nan Zhubin could say anything else, the visitor spoke again.

She put on an air of adult maturity: “It’s just work; everyone does their part and gets things done, avoiding troubling others when possible; that’s best.”

…

Nan Zhubin’s expression remained unchanged, but inside he felt a slight chill.

This was a crucial statent.

However, Nan Zhubin thought it over, deciding it wasn’t yet ti to use this statent, choosing instead to note it for later and encouraging the visitor to continue.

“That’s the first issue,” the visitor exhaled, adjusted her sitting position, and continued, “The second issue is… early yesterday morning, I was doing my rounds and noticed a problem with the patient in bed number three; I took note.”

The visitor took another breath: “Then, during the morning shift handover eting, I reported the situation of the patient in bed number three at night, saying there was so fluctuation in his blood pressure and it needed attention. But the head nurse just responded with ‘Hmm’ and moved on to discuss the next patient, as if… everything I said was aningless!”

The ending of her sentence was heavy, clearly carrying so anger.

Nan Zhubin promptly proceeded with [Divine Entrance], reacting to the visitor’s content while validating the emotions: “So, you observed an important dical condition yesterday morning and provided professional advice, but it was completely ignored.”

“Yes!” the visitor nodded repeatedly.

From how she was at the consultation’s start, her emotional response and engagent in the counseling had drastically transford.

Her voice was also noticeably louder: “That was my patient; I know him best. And my judgnt was right; later in the day, his blood pressure indeed beca problematic!”

Her speech rate also quickened: “But our head nurse is just like that, never giving any feedback, making it seem like anything you do is expected, making mistakes earns you scolding, and doing things right goes unseen.”

“At first, I really admired her. She was very capable, at least more than us. But she’s not just a nurse; she’s a head nurse. As part of leadership, she doesn’t show much managent skill and doesn’t provide subordinates with feedback; now, even her professional ability is starting to beco problematic, just—”

The visitor took a deep breath: “—just leaves you speechless.”

Hmm, from this section, one can see the visitor’s change in emotions towards the head nurse; it also reveals how many standards she has ntally set for the head nurse.

It all helped Nan Zhubin further validate his assessnt.

However, today’s counseling would stop here, as the “validation” part was sufficient.

Nan Zhubin needed to explore new elents.

First, he emotionally tagged and amplified the visitor’s comnt: “So, the feeling at that mont was not just ‘anger,’ but rather a sense of… your professional value and efforts being completely ignored, even denied. This makes one feel extrely ‘frustrated.'”

“Simultaneously, you feel very ‘disappointed’ in your head nurse because you had high hopes for her, but she has hardly reciprocated to you now.”

Every ti Nan Zhubin emphasized a related emotional term, the visitor slightly nodded.

But after Nan Zhubin finished speaking, she seed to calm down again, slightly smiled at the corners of her mouth, and said, “It’s… not that serious. It’s just a bit annoying. Maybe I’m being too sensitive. I didn’t say anything more after that.”

She briefly displayed slight [Defense].

But by this point in the counseling, Nan Zhubin could afford to be a bit bolder in breaking through the visitor’s [Defense].

Nan Zhubin said: “I noticed your body language and speech rate changed when describing this. Then you quickly told yourself ‘it’s not that serious’ and ‘I’m too sensitive.’

Nan Zhubin put both hands parallel in front of him: “It’s like one voice initially feels aggrieved and angry, but another voice imdiately jumps out, telling you that you shouldn’t feel this way and to suppress it.”

This was not only interpreting the verbal content of the visitor but also interpreting the process the visitor is experiencing.

Although it seed like a [Confrontation], Nan Zhubin, in the process, was also expressing his concern for the visitor from another angle. For a visitor with [Borderline Personality Disorder], it could indeed further deepen the counseling relationship.

…

The visitor hesitated for a mont upon hearing Nan Zhubin’s words as if sothing struck a chord.

Her gaze beca unfocused for a mont: “What else can be done if not this? Should I start a fight in the office? I’m there to work, not to cause trouble. Everyone should do their part, and just get things done.”

She didn’t deny it but began a sort of justification.

And the content of that justification was sowhat familiar.

This was an opportunity, and Nan Zhubin seized it precisely: “‘Everyone should do their part and just get things done’ – That’s the second ti you’ve ntioned this sentence.”

The visitor was taken aback: “Really?”

Nan Zhubin nodded: “You said the sa thing when you declined to contact a colleague to cover your shift.”

Nan Zhubin delved deeper: “That sentence seems to sound like a certain principle, so kind of… guideline? And you seemingly do take it as a sort of guideline, because you used this sentence to regulate your behavior in both situations.”

Nan Zhubin consciously guided: “This seems like your comfort zone, or perhaps… a safety zone?”

Beginning a [Deep Interpretation].

This was a preliminary [Deep Interpretation], with Nan Zhubin attempting to link the visitor’s feelings in these two events together, as well as within the situations themselves.

If this interpretation succeeds, the next step is to attempt to stretch the tiline further.

Long enough—to link up with the visitor’s past experiences, even her childhood experiences.

Nan Zhubin looked into the visitor’s eyes.