Who would study psychology unless they had some issues?! Chapter 836 689: The Obsession with Work and Family (Part 2)

As soone temporarily free from the pressures of these two responsibilities, Mo Kai strives to describe his understanding of both.

"They seem to be more driven by emotions, don't they?"

This is quite a good question.

Upon hearing this question, Nan Zhubin couldn't help but curl his lips into a slight smile.

It wasn't because Mo Kai asked a good question, but because of the visitor's situation.

"Because of 'compensation.'

Mo Kai was taken aback, this term had just appeared not long ago: "Is it similar to when he dismantles my pen?"

Nan Zhubin nodded: "From this perspective, the current situation of this visitor is still relatively optimistic."

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"Work, and family, these things, although they cannot carry emotions, have another purpose."

Nan Zhubin extended both hands, forming the shape of a square.

"They can beco an 'external order frawork' to counter internal [Dissociation] and anchor the Self in existence."

Mo Kai blinked, unable to imdiately understand.

Nan Zhubin continued to explain: "[Personality Dissociation] patients' emotional perception abilities are temporarily blocked, but their rational cognition and the internalization of social rules remain undamaged. This is also why their self-awareness is still normal."

"In such cases, their brains can still function clearly, judging 'work is the foundation of survival, losing it will lead to a chaotic life,' and 'maintaining family relationships is socially recognized value, failure to do so would cause the original life to collapse.'"

"These judgnts are unrelated to emotions and are more like 'behavioral instructions' engraved into life—"

Nan Zhubin made an analogy: "Like a machine devoid of emotional programs that can still operate on code, they clearly know 'what to do' and will execute it chanically and precisely."

"For example, clocking into work on ti, taking care of children, and comforting parents, these actions do not require emotional drive but can be sustained by long-ford rational cognition. The hidden core need is to maintain the 'normal' social acceptance of life."

Nan Zhubin changed his gesture, flattening his left hand across his chest.

"This is the outer logic."

Then Nan Zhubin put his right hand under the left hand, clenching the fist.

"A deeper motivation for such persistence is the inertia of maintaining [Role Identity] to combat the 'self-disappearance' fear brought by [Dissociation]."

Nan Zhubin spoke in a tone of rare sentintality in front of outsiders: "Before the onset of [Personality Dissociation], the visitor had long solidified identities like 'career person,' 'partner,' 'parent' in his life. This is not just emotion-driven behavior but more like a task."

"When [Dissociation] occurs, the visitor's perception of Self becos blurred, and they repeatedly fall into an observer perspective as if watching others do things. Consistently performing these role tasks allows them a temporary escape from the observer perspective. When completing work projects on ti, they gain a real sense of 'I am still participating in this world.'"

"Even if these interactions are devoid of warmth, it is safer than wholly disappearing from social relations."

Nan Zhubin sighed: "This can also be seen as an instinctual resistance to 'losing control,' using external order to counter internal chaos."

Nan Zhubin once again made a square gesture with his hands.

"So, I say his work and family relationships have ford an 'external order frawork'—fixed work hours, defined work processes, and a predetermined mode of family interactions, all predictable and controllable."

"Maintaining this frawork can directly offset the internal chaos."

"When working, goals and deadlines shift attention from 'self-alienation' to specific tasks, temporarily forgetting the pain of 'not feeling emotions'; while maintaining family relations, roles like 'father' or 'child' offer clear behavioral guidelines, avoiding facing confusion."

"The more stable the external order is, the weaker the feeling of internal dissociation."

Nan Zhubin said: "From this perspective, it is also his subconscious at struggle."

It's quite a twisty explanation.

[Personality Dissociation] is self-protection when an individual faces an emotional flood caused by destructive events.

And now, maintaining the external order frawork is self-anchoring by the individual's subconscious to prevent deepening [Dissociation].

Mo Kai finally understood this concept and couldn't help but feel moved: "Work and family, they are both the causes of his [Personality Dissociation], aren't they? But now, they have beco anchors that prevent the worsening of his [Personality Dissociation]."

At this mont, Chonghui also showed a sense of satisfaction from acquiring new knowledge.

The sa psychological issue can manifest differently in different individuals.

This visitor's case indeed broadens the horizons.

Perhaps it might provide so guidance for similar issues in the future.

However, Chonghui soon pulled his Spirit back: "But maintaining this external order frawork is quite fragile, isn't it?"

Like a kite string already tense in the strong wind, at constant risk of breaking.

Nan Zhubin nodded: "So it requires special attention. At the end of the consultation, I repeatedly insisted he undergoes dical diagnosis, also hoping to further evoke his attention to 'order.'

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Mo Kai also sensed a sense of urgency.

After adding so details to his notebook, he asked: "So, senior, what is the conventional intervention strategy for [Personality Dissociation]? How should his condition be adjusted?"

This is the most crucial question.

It's also the last question of today's teaching session.

"Regarding conventional intervention strategies for [Personality Dissociation]..." Nan Zhubin had prepared for this question, "The core is to stabilize the current state, then strengthen reality-testing perception ability, followed by emotional integration, and ultimately prevent relapse."

Nan Zhubin explained as if reciting a treasure trove: "The first step is [Stabilization], which can be achieved through mindfulness, breathing exercises, and sensory anchoring to help the visitor anchor in the present and alleviate self-alienation; the second step is [Reality Testing], enhancing the visitor's reality perception ability to differentiate 'abnormal experiences' from 'objective reality'; the third step is [Emotional Integration], guiding the visitor to re-sense and accept isolated emotions; the final step is [Relapse Prevention], helping them identify stress signals and establish coping strategies."

Chonghui listened quietly.

No matter how many tis he witnessed such scenes, he couldn't help but be amazed.

The junior brother's reservoir in counseling skills is vast, his response to problems incredibly swift, and his thinking remarkably clear.

Nan Zhubin added: "But the visitor's situation cannot wholly apply conventional strategies; it has to adjust according to his specific traits and the boundaries of EAP consultation."

He shifted the topic back to this visitor himself.

"Moreover, although he is sowhat cooperative in counseling, his [defense] chanism remains strong. Therefore, intervention should not oppose his rationality but leverage it to promote healing."

Nan Zhubin finally paused to think for two breaths.

Mo Kai gazed at him, eyes bright.

Nan Zhubin soon organized his thoughts.

"The conventional frawork for [Personality Dissociation] intervention remains unchanged, but the selection of specific techniques should fit the visitor's work scenario and thinking habits," Nan Zhubin first provided a general direction.

"The first step is still [Stabilization], but conventional mindfulness training is not suitable. Traditional mindfulness training tends toward abstraction, lacking clear practical scenarios and asurable goals, inconsistent with the visitor's daily work cognitive habits, and he probably doesn't have much ti for mindfulness training."

Nan Zhubin summarized: "Using [grounding techniques] would be better, as it focuses more on short-term effects and can adapt to the visitor's workplace setting."

Considering Nan Zhubin's suggestion, Chonghui thought for a mont and then approvingly nodded.