Who would study psychology unless they had some issues?! Chapter 891: 716: Parallel Relationships (2)

Capítulo 891: Chapter 716: Parallel Relationships (2)

The visitor raised their hand and began to wave, as if there were many things they wanted to express but didn’t know how to put into words, causing their face to turn bright red.

“I think it’s fine. I used to be in a relationship, now I’m married. My main task is to earn money to support the family, right?”

Nan Zhubin sumd up, “You feel that from ‘boyfriend’ to ‘husband,’ your role has changed, so the tasks are different?”

“Yes, Teacher Nan, that’s right!” The visitor swung their hand vigorously, feeling a sense of relief, “Teacher Nan, you really summarized it well. These were just thoughts in my mind before, and I didn’t know how to express them.”

“Now that I’m a husband, my main task is to earn money to support the family, right? Maintaining the operation of a ho surely ans each family mber has their own division of labor, right?”

“Actually, if I speak narrowly…” the visitor’s voice lowered, “I feel that I’m responsible for earning money, so she should be the one providing emotional value, right? It should be that after I work overti and return ho, she comforts , right?”

Nan Zhubin did not directly answer this question.

He explored, “You ntioned earlier that your wife beca a full-ti housewife after giving birth, and she hasn’t worked since?”

The visitor nodded, “That’s right, she’s at ho now, taking care of the child.”

Nan Zhubin probed, “Does she have any thoughts about going back to work?”

The visitor shook their head, “She can’t go… She took more than a year off, and it’s not easy to return to the workplace unless she compromises and lowers work standards. But then she’d endure a lot of grievances, and I feel sympathetic towards her.”

“Besides, the child is still young, no one to take care of them. Hiring a nanny would be too expensive; asking our elderly parents to co to Beidu to help… we feel that would actually cause more troubles.”

“So, it remains like this,” the visitor concluded.

Nan Zhubin nodded knowingly.

Understanding a bit more about the visitor’s thoughts.

He asked the most crucial question, “Have you talked to her about your thoughts?”

Many family issues stem from either a lack of communication or ineffective communication.

The visitor clicked their tongue, “I’ve complained to her before, saying these things…”

Nan Zhubin asked, “How did she respond to your thoughts?”

“She… she told that no one ‘has to be a certain way,'” she said people have emotions, full-ti wives are people too, they also have emotions, and that’s reasonable;”

“She said she’s naturally emotionally sensitive, and I knew this when I got together with her and married her, and now I have to endure and digest this, which is also reasonable;”

“And because of and our family, she gave up her career and even had a child, so we can’t say that since the person who contributed to the family first contributed less later, she hasn’t contributed; rather, she’d endure being wronged. I shouldn’t use the fact that I work to support the family to make a point, thinking I’m the only one contributing at ho…”

The visitor covered their face, “I… can’t win the argunt against her. I feel my thoughts are not wrong, but… she’s not without reason.”

Nan Zhubin asked, “After your ‘discussion,’ did either of you experience any changes?”

The visitor shook their head, “She’s not changing, and I can’t change either… We feel like maybe we’re both waiting for the other to change.”

“Anyway, until now… we’re maintaining the interaction model I initially told you about.”

After narrating their intense inner thoughts, the visitor leaned back.

The expression on their face turned lancholy and exhausted again, even more tired than when they first entered the consultation room.

“After a tiring day of work, I return ho, and she talks to about this and that. If I don’t soothe her, she complains or gets angry.”

“Up until now… I speak less and less, even starting to not want to return ho.”

“When I buy late-night snacks, I deliberately choose those that take longer to prepare, and even sit in the car at the parking lot for a while, just to get ho later… Being late, perhaps she’ll be tired too, and won’t have the energy to talk, so everyone can sleep well.”

While speaking, for so unknown reason, the visitor suddenly started laughing.

“I recently discovered that a brother at the parking space next to mine does the sa thing, staying in the parking space after returning, listening to music or even taking a nap.”

“When he sees , sotis he’ll pass a cigarette, and sotis I’ll bring him so late-night snacks too.”

“Unfortunately, I haven’t seen him since last month, not sure what happened…”

Nan Zhubin stretched the corners of his mouth.

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With a “click,” the visitor pulled open the consultation room door and walked out first.

The EAP Project Team’s consultation rooms are limited, so the visitor was let out first to quickly free up a usable room for the next visitor.

Seeing this, Mo Kai imdiately approached, “Hello, I’m Teacher Nan’s assistant. If possible, could you please fill out the questionnaire again?”

The visitor froze for a mont, but was very cooperative, “Sure.”

Mo Kai breathed a sigh of relief, seeming to indicate that the consultation just now had a good effect.

Although it’s an EAP consultation now, Mo Kai no longer has the task of recomnding consultation packages, but he can’t stay idle either.

Mo Kai’s new task is to conduct supplentary questionnaire surveys for visitors, asking them to redo the scales used in previous data collection.

This is also part of the EAP’s work.

In the later project summary, the data collected will be broadly categorized; analyzing “what kind of employee assistance needs different data categories of employees have” is also one of the tasks.

In this regard, it requires processing the consultation files of visitors in a fuzzified manner and corresponding them to data categorization summaries.

This is done without personal privacy information, within the scope of confidentiality.

The research group had already prepared in advance when compiling the scale, and the [test-retest reliability] of the scale is quite good. It’s now within the golden retest period of two weeks to a month, which can effectively avoid [practice effects] and [mory effects], and the asured traits won’t change too much.

However, just when this visitor finished the questionnaire and was about to leave.

The next visitor happened to arrive at the door.

“Uh… Hello.”

“Hello.”

Watching the two visitors greet each other, Mo Kai frowned.

This kind of [parallel relationship] between visitors should also be avoided.

The EAP Project Team’s mbers have taken note of this during scheduling, trying to make visitors avoid each other as much as possible.

Fortunately, the two didn’t seem to know each other. After greeting, they quickly parted.

“Hello, I’ve booked a psychological consultation with Teacher Nan…” the new visitor said.

This was a female employee, and although she was conversing with Mo Kai upon entering, her eyes were wandering around the EAP office.

“Hello,” although having many thoughts, Mo Kai had already mastered a qualified professional smile, “Your appointnt ti is…”

The visitor smiled apologetically, “I arrived twenty minutes early, got a bit impatient…”

That explains it.

Evidently, Nan Zhubin’s consultation was very quick this ti. In theory, the alternation between visitors shouldn’t have posed any issues.

Mo Kai asked the visitor to take a short rest while the front desk, a master’s degree holder, confird the consultation schedule and frowned internally, but also poured a cup of water for the new visitor.

“You might need to wait a little longer. Our Teacher Nan just finished the previous consultation and needs to rest for a bit…”

Perhaps it was an illusion, but the front desk felt the new visitor’s gaze quickly swept over them.

It was then that Mo Kai ca out, “Teacher Nan won’t rest; the visitor can go straight in.”