Xia Youqing was still emotional, glanced at Shi Wangyue, and said nothing.
"Auntie, would you like so tea?" Shi Wangyue poured purified water into the kettle.
"No, thanks." Xia Youqing said with a headache, "You eat first if you’re hungry, don’t bother with that."
"I’ll eat after I boil the water." Shi Wangyue replied with an elegant deanor.
Xie Baosheng walked over to Ning Youguang and smiled, "You went out for a bit and bought so much good food?"
"Didn’t buy much, just packed a few dishes randomly, not sure if uncle and auntie would like them." Shi Wangyue pressed the button to boil the water.
"I’m not picky." Xie Baosheng said, patting his stomach, "As long as there’s food to eat."
He asked Xie Yizun, "Yiyi, are you eating?"
He had actually heard his son’s shouting outside just now.
Pretended not to hear.
Purely making trouble!
"No." Xie Yizun glared angrily at his mom sitting opposite him.
"If you don’t eat, then forget it." Xia Youqing said, "Old Xie, eat by yourself."
Xie Baosheng picked up his chopsticks, "Then I’ll eat first, I didn’t have lunch, I’m hungry."
Ning Youguang reminded from the side, "Uncle, mom, we’ll have a eting in the room in thirty minutes."
Xie Baosheng agreed, "Got it."
After boiling the water, Shi Wangyue made a pot of tea, and without caring whether Xia Youqing would drink it, gave her the first cup.
...
Half an hour later, in the room.
"Yiyi’s running away this ti is just a typical teenage rebellion, intentionally opposing you, intentionally provoking you." Ning Youguang sat in a chair, speaking to Xia Youqing and Xie Baosheng sitting on the sofa opposite, "His behavior’s motive is, ’You’re not good to , I understand, that’s your problem.’ He wants to achieve his own goal by doing this, he hopes you respect him and understand him a bit more."
Xia Youqing and Xie Baosheng both had headaches.
"How am I supposed to respect him?" Xia Youqing said, "How am I supposed to understand? He’s just in eighth grade and already wants to quit school, how am I supposed to respect that?"
"How can he not go to school?" Xie Baosheng said anxiously from the side.
"He’s already developed an aversion to school; you can’t forcibly make him go now." Ning Youguang said calmly.
"If that’s unworkable, how am I supposed to manage?" Xia Youqing said, "Youyou, why don’t you give your brother so psychological counseling."
"I won’t counsel him unless he actively asks for it." Ning Youguang refused.
"Can’t you do it secretly, without telling him?" Xia Youqing suggested.
"No." Ning Youguang said, "You’re family, I’m not involved; I can’t ddle in your family matters and disrupt the boundaries. In the end, the problem won’t be solved and even more issues will arise."
"Youyou, do you have any good suggestions?" Xie Baosheng asked, seeking advice.
"My suggestion is you need to change the way you interact with Yiyi." Ning Youguang said.
"How should we change? What’s wrong with our current way?" Xie Baosheng asked.
"Are you still continuing the childhood pattern of ’I say, you listen,’ ’I hit, you endure,’ ’I order, you execute’?" Ning Youguang asked.
"He’s still a child, we don’t need to teach, is there any other thod?" Xia Youqing said, troubled.
"When Yiyi was younger, that thod worked, but now he’s a teenager." Ning Youguang said with a bit of exasperation, "Have you tried to understand what teenage boys need? Now he needs to share power with you, be on equal footing with you, and at this point, you need to lower yourselves and listen to his voice."
"Listen to his voice?" Xia Youqing took a deep breath, "His voice is he doesn’t want to go to school, he wants to be a trainee, wants to be a star."
Ning Youguang nodded, "Yes, Yiyi also told his dream is to be a star."
"He’s only thirteen, what kind of star? Does he think the entertainnt industry is just child’s play?" Xia Youqing said angrily.
"I don’t see anything wrong with having a dream of becoming a star." Ning Youguang said, "Weren’t you the sa?"
Xia Youqing paused, "How is that the sa? I decided I wanted to be a star in high school, and I got into the best film academy. He’s still in middle school and doesn’t want to go to school; if left to his own devices, he won’t even get into the best art school even if he does make it into the industry; people would mock him as an uneducated fool with a low degree!"
"These are all things you can talk to him about." Ning Youguang said, "Yiyi isn’t unreasonable, and besides, dreams don’t concern age, interests don’t have shoulds or should-nots, only likes and dislikes. I decided to be a psychologist back in kindergarten."
Xia Youqing sighed, "You’re different from him. You were obedient from a young age, did well academically, and now you’ve achieved your dream, better than everyone else, so that’s called youthful ambition! What is Yiyi? He doesn’t study well, is always causing trouble at school, saying he wants to be a star might just be for fun."
"That’s your prejudice." Ning Youguang stared seriously at Xia Youqing, "You have a bias against him."
"How is that a bias?" Xia Youqing said, "I’m stating the facts, you don’t even know how many complaint calls from his teachers I get each week. You never gave any trouble when you were young."
"Just because I was obedient, does it an he should bear your prejudice?" Ning Youguang asked sharply, "Each person is a unique flower, and as parents, you should nurture and encourage your kids to be true to their inner choices. My talent was in studying, so I wanted to study well, and you supported that. Yiyi’s talent is in playing piano, learning music, why can’t you support him in spending more ti and effort in these areas?"
"You work in the arts, why must Yiyi beco a good student first, and what even is a good student? Is it getting into a top high school, a good art school? Why isn’t a student who wants to be true to their inner dreams considered a good student?"
Ning Youguang’s series of questions left Xia Youqing a bit stunned.
"I believe there will be outstanding people in every field in the future, supporting Yiyi’s interests is what you as parents need to do, and you must discard those illogical prejudices. Yiyi has the right to draw up his own life blueprint."
"So, according to you, I should just let him be?" Xia Youqing frowned tightly, "How’s that different from spoiling a child?"
"Parents need to support their child’s interests, it doesn’t an letting them get spoiled." Ning Youguang said.
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