"I suggest that you give him enough ti and space to grow and recognize the importance of his growth. This is the responsibility and mission of being a parent." Ning Youguang looked at Xia Youqing and said, "A mother’s support for her child’s dreams is the driving force for the child’s success. This aligns with psychologist Skinner’s theory of reinforcent learning.
—The so-called reinforcent refers to the consequences of affirming or denying a behavior, including rewards or punishnts, which at least to so extent determine whether the behavior will be repeated in the future. Reinforcent can be divided into positive reinforcent and negative reinforcent based on its nature and purpose.
Positive reinforcent ans that if a certain behavior brings pleasure and satisfaction to the actor, such as providing food, money, praise, and care, the actor will tend to repeat the behavior;
Negative reinforcent ans that if a certain behavior can reduce or eliminate the actor’s displeasure and aversion, such as reducing noise, severe cold, extre heat, clicking, and scolding, the actor will also tend to repeat the behavior."
"If you support Yiyi’s dreams, then it is a form of positive reinforcent for him.
This positive reinforcent, applied to his dreams, can boost his confidence, making him more willing to pursue his dreams. At the sa ti, it also enables him to better withstand difficulties and obstacles encountered in the pursuit of his dreams, allowing him to persist on the path toward achieving them."
"For Yiyi, your unconditional support and encouragent are his strongest backing because he knows that even if he fails, your support will allow him to take a leap of faith for his dreams. If you continuously negate Yiyi, it will only damage his confidence. On the contrary, it will increase his confidence."
The importance of confidence to children is sothing both Xie Baosheng and Xia Youqing understand.
"It’s not that I don’t support him in pursuing his dreams," Xia Youqing argued, "I just hope he can study hard now. When he grows up, if he wants to beco a star, would I not support him? I am just helping him plan a better path."
"I’m sorry, but I personally think that what you call planning for Yiyi is not planning; it’s coercion. It’s very cruel to put him in a jar and make him grow according to your demands. You say it’s for his good, but you haven’t given him freedom," Ning Youguang said. "Think about it, if soone urged you, under the guise of being for your good, not to let you do what you want to do every day, how would you feel?"
Her daughter’s words were too sharp, and Xia Youqing didn’t dare to look at her face.
After a while, she weakly asked, "Then tell , what should I do now?"
"What you need to do now is to do your best to relieve his stress and emotions, allowing him to maintain his passion for life and the future," Ning Youguang said.
"How can I do that?" Xia Youqing felt it was too hard, "I don’t even know how to relieve my own emotions."
"I’ll do it, I’ll do it," Xie Baosheng comforted his wife.
"You—" Xia Youqing joked, "What’s the use of fishing for three days and drying the nets for two?"
"I’m always on business trips and busy, aren’t I?" Xie Baosheng said sheepishly.
In fact, he also felt deep guilt about his younger son’s education.
That’s why he often indulged him in the past.
When the kid was younger, he always thought it would not be too late to take charge when he had ti in the future. He waited and waited until his son was in adolescence and until the parent-child relationship at ho beca so severe that his son wanted to run away.
Yesterday, when he heard his son was missing, his first reaction was regret!
Deep regret.
At that mont, he suddenly felt that being busy with business and making money every day seed aningless compared to being with his child.
He thought if anything happened to his son, he definitely wouldn’t be able to forgive himself, even if it ant losing everything to get his son back.
Later, when he heard from his wife that his son ran away from ho to go to the capital to find his sister.
He almost burst into tears of gratitude on the spot.
Fortunately...
Fortunately, there is still a daughter whom his son can trust.
Otherwise, he really wouldn’t know what to do.
So, today, after seeing his son, he didn’t have the energy to be angry at all. He felt that having him safely in front of him was a trendous blessing.
With this in mind, he gritted his teeth and made a decision.
"Honey, you always resent that I’m busy with work and not taking care of the family, right? But with such a big company, thousands of people are waiting to eat. As the boss, I can’t ignore them..."
Xia Youqing looked at him, "Just say what you want to say."
"Look... If I ask Sheng Xing to return to headquarters to help , how about that?" Xie Baosheng asked cautiously, "When he cos back, I can delegate the business trips to him, so I can stay ho with you."
Xie Shengxing was Xie Baosheng’s only son with his ex-wife.
After studying abroad, he has been abroad and hasn’t returned.
After a brief pause, Xia Youqing said, a little grudgingly, "Of course, that’s fine. Why wouldn’t it be? Sheng Xing is capable, and he’s your son. As long as he’s willing, he can co to your company anyti."
Xie Baosheng breathed a sigh of relief and grinned foolishly, "I haven’t asked him yet, but your support is the best."
"Why wouldn’t I support it?" Xia Youqing quipped, "Our Yiyi is going to be a star. How would he manage the company in the future? Besides, do you think he’s the material to manage the company? Moreover, if Yiyi wants to inherit your mantle, he has to have the ability to compete with his brother. Otherwise, if you don’t have the requisite skills, don’t take on daunting challenges."
What she didn’t say was—
"Old Xie, you have the company; I, too, don’t lack money."
"Even without your assets, my son can still live well!"
Her words moved Xie Baosheng so much that his eyes reddened.
He hugged her tightly, "Thank you, honey."
Ning Youguang’s lips curled up slightly.
Fate has co full circle back here.
There are similarities and differences.
The similarity is that Xie Shengxing will return to inherit Uncle Xie’s company.
The difference is that Yiyi, with the support of his parents, can find his life’s goal and future direction early, and won’t beco a troubleso second-generation rich or a notorious young master due to overindulgence and lack of love.
...
Having settled his wife, Xie Baosheng said earnestly, "Youyou, can you teach so thods for educating Yiyi?"
"Of course." Ning Youguang nodded, "But this is not easy to do, and it won’t show results in a short ti."
"I understand, I understand," Xie Baosheng said. "Rest assured, I will work hard to do well."
Then, he rubbed his hands together, "I might have to trouble you for suggestions often."
"That’s not a problem," Ning Youguang said. "What matters is that you can see the issues and are willing to change, and take Yiyi’s family education seriously." 1314
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