For such a client.
What she needs to do is never to define her.
She only needs to provide her with analysis, to help her see more clearly the problems she has discovered in herself.
Finally, tell her what she should do about it.
ntal manipulation can truly destroy a person’s will.
The most painful mont for soone being manipulated is when you realize you are hopelessly distant from the best version of yourself—your true self.
Liang Yiyi lost her confidence, self-esteem, independence, courage, and happiness in this intimate relationship.
She spent a long ti only wanting her husband’s approval.
Until recently, she began to understand that this was a goal she could never achieve.
This indicates that she has been manipulated to the third stage.
...
In the first stage of being manipulated, Liang Yiyi hoped to gain her husband’s approval, for him to affirm that she is a lovely, outstanding, and lovable person.
But if she couldn’t achieve it, she could still accept it.
When there was a disagreent between them, she would start from her own position. If he said sothing that seed wrong, she would argue with him.
In the event of a conflict, she could still maintain her own judgnt and question him.
In the second stage—
When disagreents arose between Liang Yiyi and her husband, she would question but habitually consider his perspective and opinions.
She believed his viewpoint was normal and desperately sought opportunities to communicate, to express her own viewpoint, to prove she is lovable, excellent, right, etc.
Yet by that ti, she had already lost her judgnt and couldn’t see the bigger picture, only getting entangled in the details he criticized her for.
One of the most dangerous features of the third stage is her increasingly severe cognitive deficiency.
Feelings of frustration, despair, and lack of enjoynt seed particularly normal.
This is Liang Yiyi’s current state, shutting herself off, no longer interacting with others, forgetting what she used to be like, feeling numb to life, unable to find joy in anything, living like a zombie, exhausted from the tornt, not even wanting to argue with her husband anymore and having no expectations of him, of course, without questioning his judgnt either—
If it weren’t for her daughter discovering her problem and trying hard to help her, to awaken her.
She would have completely fallen into despair, without her husband needing to continue manipulating her, as her own vitality would rapidly deplete.
Fortunately...
She has a daughter, soone who strives to awaken her and help her get out.
"Yes, I have realized that my relationship with my husband has a problem," Liang Yiyi said. "For the past few months, I have been considering whether to take action."
Ning Youguang smiled and said, "Congratulations on deciding not to continue playing the manipulation ga with him!"
Little glimrs of light appeared in Liang Yiyi’s eyes.
Ning Youguang continued to ask, "Have you decided to change the rules of the ga with your husband?"
"Yes, I used to be very worried about divorcing my husband, terrified of being separated from him, afraid that from then on I would have no ho, no family, but Lele told I still have her, she can accompany ."
A smile appeared on Liang Yiyi’s face, "Lele has grown up, she is smarter and braver than , I am her mother, and since she is so brave in helping , if I continue to entangle myself with her father in a aningless way, I would truly be brainless."
—"I’m not only brainless, I also have no responsibility or sense of duty, I don’t deserve to be a mother." 1314
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