Many marriages break not because the couple doesn’t love each other enough, but because the many trivial matters and minor conflicts in life wear down their feelings day by day, eventually turning them negative.
Of course, the reasons why a couple generates conflict over life’s trivial matters can be varied. Affairs and changes in economic conditions account for a large proportion.
The man or woman has found a new lover outside, and naturally, upon returning ho, they start to compare their spouse to the "other person". Many faults and shortcomings that they could tolerate in their partner before suddenly beco intolerable. This is especially noticeable for won.
If a woman has an affair, her heart is basically no longer with her ho or husband. At first, she might feel guilty and start treating her husband well with a compensatory mindset, but this situation certainly doesn’t last long. Gradually, they feel their husband falls short of their lover in every way and start thinking of divorce.
If a man has an affair, unless he’s been unhappy with his wife from the start, he seldom wants a divorce, especially after having children.
In this respect, n’s sense of responsibility towards family is much stronger than won’s.
Many won abandon their previous sense of responsibility towards their husband and family after an affair. n aren’t necessarily the sa.
Another very real issue is the economic situation.
In real life, many divorces now are due to changes in family financial conditions, which mainly refers to the man’s side.
The saying "n beco bad once they get rich," even if not absolutely true, is correct for at least more than 80% of the ti.
In reality, too many n, once they make money and succeed, discard the won who have shared joys and hardships with them and find soone younger and prettier. Or after getting rich, even if they don’t have affairs, they’re often seen in clubs and massage parlors.
Of course, if the man becos poor, then he can’t flaunt anymore, and the wife who seed loving might very likely leave him.
Since ancient tis, it seems natural for n to earn money to support the family, while won stay ho to watch the kids and do chores. If the roles are reversed, people might criticize the man.
So, in terms of family, n naturally have to put in more effort than won most of the ti.
If a man can’t earn money to support his family, it represents failure, represents incompetence. Won will naturally resent them, so initiating a divorce is only logical and has beco commonplace now.
This is also the main reason for most divorce cases in the country now; the so-called emotional incompatibility and personality clashes are undoubtedly excuses.
Chen Feng felt that his previous divorce was mainly due to this reason. He had a smooth job before, with a salary of nearly ten thousand and a promising career, and he was very much in love with Shen Lin.
But later, he faced difficulties at work, and his monthly salary was only three to four thousand, almost half of Shen Lin’s. It seed Shen Lin lost faith in his future.
Then Shen Lin began to find fault with him in all aspects of life. At first, Chen Feng couldn’t help but talk back, leading to argunts, and later, they beca cold towards each other.
Then, their feelings were slowly worn away by such argunts and cold wars, leaving almost nothing.
Until Chen Feng found out he had a terminal illness, his conscience was unsullied, and he proposed divorce to her. Although Shen Lin said she could give him a chance to rekindle their relationship.
But even if Chen Feng hadn’t had a terminal illness at that ti, he had already thought of divorcing. Because then he was disappointed with Shen Lin, disappointed with himself, felt he couldn’t provide the life she wanted, and Shen Lin was no longer the innocent girl he once admired and loved.
To put it simply, when a person’s heart changes, feelings change, and trying to recover them isn’t so easy. It’s aningless.
From Chen Feng’s perspective, the relationship that tries to rekindle in such circumstances is already imperfect, patched up, flawed.
Such feelings are better left alone.
Back in the mont, Shen Lin wanted to start anew with him, even thinking about remarrying, but Chen Feng felt it was aningless.
He and Shen Lin remained silent for a long ti. Shen Lin just looked at him, and then tears slowly rolled down her eyes.
Chen Feng finally avoided her gaze, turning to look at the road coming from Red Villa Bay.
Not long after, he finally saw a white Mini approaching from a distance, which soon arrived in front of them and honked twice before pulling over.
"I’m leaving. You should head back too."
Chen Feng imdiately went forward to open the trunk door of the car, and before getting inside, he turned to Shen Lin and said that.
Sitting inside, Wu ngting just glanced through the window at Shen Lin standing foolishly by the roadside, then quickly started the car and drove off.
After the car had driven a distance, Wu ngting finally asked, "Bro, where did you park your car?"
Chen Feng just then rembered, looked outside to identify and said, "Just over there by that Quik Convenience Store, a bit further ahead will do."
"Okay." Wu ngting replied and drove over there.
Chen Feng took out his keys and handed them to Sun Xiaorui in the passenger seat, "Can you drive it back for later? No problem, right?"
Sun Xiaorui has a license but no car, so she hasn’t driven much.
"No problem, during New Year, I drove my dad’s old Passat the whole ti."
"That’s fine then."
Quickly, the car reached the convenience store, and Sun Xiaorui got out to drive Chen Feng’s car.
Wu ngting started the car again, heading back, then couldn’t help but ask, "Bro, how did things go? What did your forr in-laws say?"
Chen Feng leaned his head on the backrest, answering weakly, "Resolved."
"How was it resolved?" Wu ngting asked curiously.
Chen Feng’s mouth revealed a slight smile, continuing weakly, "How else? With money."
"Money? Yeah, money truly is all-powerful. How much did you give?" Wu ngting asked with a sarcastic tone.
"Not much, a million."
"...Not much. Compared to your current worth, it’s really nothing." Wu ngting said, feigning a relaxed tone, "Does this an that now you’ve given them the money, you have no more ties with them? Including...your ex-wife?"
Chen Feng smirked, "I hope so, but my ex-wife seems to regret it."
Wu ngting quickly said, "What was she doing then? What’s the use of regretting now? She hurt you, even if the scars have healed, they leave marks."
Chen Feng laughed, "You’re right."
"What do you an now? You won’t hesitate, right?" Wu ngting asked while observing Chen Feng’s expression through the rearview mirror.
"What’s there to hesitate about? I’m free now, and I’m not short of female company, so why would I climb back into the grave of marriage?"
Hearing Chen Feng say this, Wu ngting felt a huge sense of relief and said with a smile, "Marriage isn’t necessarily a grave, it could be paradise too, as long as the two people love each other enough."
Chen Feng didn’t argue with her, just smiled and said, "You’ve got a point."
Wu ngting smiled but didn’t say more; she just wanted to make sure Chen Feng showed no signs of reconciling with his ex-wife.
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